You win some, you lose some – an unfortunate reality each player must accept. But there are certain cases where this kind of logic and reality provides absolutely no real comfort whatsoever.
We’ve all been there and know what it is. For any combination of reasons, to walk to have lost a lot more than you expect. That, or you came tantalisingly close to hitting the jackpot, you only need to go and blow it at the last moment.
As it happens, there is little that you can do. When it happens to someone else in the neighborhood, is the best what you can do is avoid making things worse than they already are. In particular, if it happens to be a friend that you would prefer not to dispose of the for the coming years!
So, while there will always inevitably be cases where the foot meets the mouth, here is a quick overview of 10 things that you really should never say to someone who just lost big:
- Maybe if you practice harder, do it better next time!
First of all, this particular statement is infuriating for two reasons. The first of the fact that hindsight can be the mother of all evil and has absolutely no practical value whatsoever. After all, it’s not like they go back in time and try again. Second, what suggests that the lack of practice was the problem (even if it was) serves as an accusation that their loss is entirely their own fault, and technically can be avoided. As such, not really what you want to hear when you are already on a downer.
- Really? You lost THAT much?
In many cases, people who suffer losing streaks are a little bit better by trying to convince themselves of their losses were not very heavy. As such, the worst thing you can do, is all the attention on the fact that they have clearly lost more than they. It could mean that the bite of your tongue, but it is the best.
- Your luck tonight is terrible.
You can try and blame it on the happiness of everything you want, but the simple fact of the matter is that if you lose you lose as a result of your own actions. In the case of a seasoned gamer who knows what they are doing, this comes across as patronizing. In the case of a somewhat naive gamer, to convince them it is all a matter of luck and out of their own hands is not productive.
- Well, it’s not the first time that this has happened, is it?
If you really want to add insult to injury, why not remind you that the person in question that their last loss really isn’t anything too surprising. Chances are they remember that this is not the first time that it has happened, nor will they need to remember.
- I’m sure you’ll do better next time.
The problem with this seemingly reassuring statement is the obvious fact that you not in fact, it is sure that they will do better next time. Instead, you are clearly saying exactly what you think they want to hear at the time, that in reality is really not what they want to hear. Plus you might accidentally go and encourage them to go further and lose even more.
- how much have you got to lose?
If a friend tells you they have lost, big time, in a casino, the chances are that they will not give you an exact figure for a reason. If you are trying to get an exact figure from them, you run the risk of embarrassing them or just make things worse than they already are. Unless they themselves voluntarily state the exact amount that they have lost, don’t ask!
- You can win back losses.
is One of the biggest mistakes anyone can make when it comes to a kind of casino gaming try to win back their losses. As such, if the person in question is someone that you’d rather not to see dig himself into an even deeper hole, don’t even think about suggesting that they try to win back the money that they have lost. They can consider to do this, and your suggestion could push them over the edge.
- Maybe this is not the game for you.
It is never a good idea to tell someone that they themselves are not intelligent or wise enough to determine which games they should or should not play. Especially if it happens to be a game that they enjoy and that they are successful. The person in question is already nursing a rather unpleasant defeat, but to suggest that they should admit defeat finally and connect likely to provoke an unfortunate response.
- don’t forget it is a round at the bar
All fun and games to you, but making all kinds of jokes about how much money the individual in question has lost can backfire in a big way. The key to success when it comes to handling this kind of scenarios is to simply carry on as if nothing has happened and talk about the loss, to the extent that the person in question makes it clear that they wish to do so.
- It is not all doom and gloom – I have a ton!
Last but not least, perhaps the worst thing you can do if one of your friends is suffering from a serious loss is to gloat about your own success. Even if you have every intention of supporting and generous with your own gains, this is a great way of making them feel like a failure and a loser. In fact, one of the most important rules when it comes to casino etiquette in general is gracious in victory, just as you would/should be and to beat.
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